Hello
Aybige!
Well I have to see how you are together of course, but here's what
I think about you and your boyfriend. Five years is a long time to
be with someone, so occasional bickering is natural. Having arguments
here and there is normal for most couples who've been together for
a long time, so this is nothing to be alarmed about.
Having
said that, if you find that all you ever do is argue, then you may
want to take a good long look at your relationship and see if the
issues over which you argue are things you can work through or if
they seem too daunting to ever get past. Sometimes when a couple argues
about the same issue over and over again, they are hiding other issues
as well. It is very hard sometimes for couples to admit to their relationship
deteriorating.
Now,
as I use my psychic abilities to assess the situation, I see that
you and your boyfriend seem to be complacent right now, meaning you
both know you have things you need to work on, but neither one of
you has approached the subject yet. I don't see you as having a bad
relationship, in fact I see you as someone who can tackle issues head
on when confronted with them and you also seem to be able to use rest
periods to help you calm down before you speak up about things.
Your
boyfriend on the other hand seems to blow up unnecessarily many times.
It seems as though he's almost looking for an excuse to get angry
and threatens to throw in the towel a lot too. It's not so much that
he sees himself wanting out of the relationship, but I think he has
issues with feeling tied down or controlled. He sees you as a mother
figure at times, like you often tell him how things should be done
and if things are not done your way, you judge them as not being done
properly. You should really try to let him do things his own way,
and not worry too much about the way things are done, just be happy
they get done.
I
also see he has jealousy issues that he may want to take a look at.
It seems that if he so much as sees you talking to another man, he
gets angry, But yet, he may not say so at first, because he knows
you are trustworthy and he doesn't want to upset you. His fear is
not so much that you will stray but that somehow another man will
hurt you or badmouth him to you. Take the time to reassure him that
you love him and that he's still the one for you.
I
see he also has a romantic side, even more romantic than you at times.
It's almost as though the roles are switched here. You are more analytical,
meaning you see the logical side of things before the emotional side,
and he looks to be the opposite, which can explain many of his blowups
that seem to occur out of the blue. During those times, I would suggest
you say, "Why don't I go take a walk while you simmer down, and
then we can discuss this." Make sure to tell him you love him
before leaving; let him know you want to work it out; that you are
simply taking some time to breathe. Once you return, he'll be ready
to see things logically. Meanwhile, I would suggest you try to meet
him halfway as well, by trying to see his point of view on things.
It's not a bad thing to be emotional at times; emotions are what bring
us together. Respect his viewpoint and he will respect yours.
All
in all, I see this relationship as having potential to be wonderful
if you can both respect each others differences. There's a lot of
love between you two and if you both work very hard to be supportive
of each other, you can really strengthen your bond and achieve quite
a lot of success as a couple! Just remember, all relationships take
work, but the work should be fun too, so try to plan more romantic
adventures, such as picnics in the park or candlelight dinners at
home. It's the little things that make all the difference!
Love,
Paula
