Dear
Derrick,
You
are wise in not involving any "love spells" whether purchased
from someone or done on your own, love spells are manipulating the
freewill of another and are never advised! Often, like the "Tale
of the Monkey's Paw" spells that manipulate another will come
back to bite you in the keister, not to mention, build negative karma.
You are correct, a love spell is never the correct thing to do.
Derrick,
both you and your girlfriend need room to grow and mature, she is
wise for her age and knows what she needs right now, room to grow.
This growth may well involve being in relationship with others. If
you truly love her, release her now, if you are meant to be together
she will return to you when the time is right and when you've both
grown in wisdom and compassion.
Often
what is really obsession or desire is mistaken for love, love is not
needy, it doesn't clutch and make demands. Love opens our hearts to
desire only the best in our loved one's life, even if it means not
being with us. This is unconditional love. There is truth in the song
"If you love someone, set them free." If it is meant to
be, they will return, if not, know that you are one step closer to
finding your true partner when you are able to release with love and
forgiveness.
This
is a time to concentrate on you, and becoming who you wish to be.
When we feel such a desperate need for another being ... it usually
indicates an emptiness in ourselves that needs to be fulfilled from
the inside. Find your true purpose, find your own strength and inner
beauty, bring all the love you feel for your girlfriend into your
own being to be nurtured and healed.
Please
guard against depression in this time of separation ... and it would
be very wise to stay away from any mind altering substances. Open
up to a trusted friend or counselor when your mind can't seem to unwrap
from your situation. Beginning a meditative practice or going for
long walks in nature will help clear you and ground you.
First
loves are never forgotten, but rarely meant to last a lifetime, there
are so many lessons to learn, so many experiences and challenges for
our souls growth and evolution. In all pain we are given the choice
to grow in wisdom and compassion or to shrink in bitterness and anger,
the choice is ours, but if we don’t grow from these lessons,
the circumstances will be repeated in our life's until we “get
it.” This is the karmic cycle.
I'm
being told that you are not to clutch at this relationship, as attempting
to catch a feather in the air, the more you try to grasp it, the farther
away it will fly from you. Sit in patience and peace and let it fall
in your hand when the air settles.
Blessings
of peace, strength and love to you Derrick,
Harusami
