Hello!,

My name is Jessica. I was born on August 24th, 1977 in Honolulu, Hawaii....I've always thought that when I'd meet the man I would marry, I would "just know" from the moment I met him. My mother had that feeling when she met my father, & so did a few of my friends, with their spouses.Well, I met a man a few years ago. He was born on December 8th, 1977 in Southern California. I got what I thought was that "feeling"... we dated & our relationship became serious. We lived together, talked about marriage & children... yet all along, I kept on questioning that feeling. I wasn't sure if I just believed he was "the one" just because I wanted to believe it, or, if that feeling was valid.Our relationship became difficult because of our inability to communicate, & express ourselves to one & other, but still I sensed that everything would improve, & that this problem is just a "bump in the road"...Eventually, we broke up & he moved to San Francisco, & we've remained in touch.

I am actually going on a trip to see him in July of this year, with feelings & thoughts that he is still man that I am going to marry. I would like to know if its all wishful thinking, or if its really my gut instincts. My heart & logic are at war, & I would like to hear what someone of a more "clearer view" would have to say about my situation.

Thank you,
Jessica

Jessica,

We can look at how we reincarnate as a one-off kinda deal or we can look at groups. I see us picking groups to work with that we are moving together with souls who are working the same issues as us -- we incarnate lifetime to lifetime and learn as each of us grows and the group grows.

Your friend is part of your pod and is growing with you -- but I see you growing with him but not necessarily for him or you for him. It is a learning phase for you both. Rather than holding out for Mr. Perfect or your soulmate - they are the same if you look at the idea -- I would ask -- are you looking for who you can be compatible with? Who compliments you, rather than who completes you?
You are young and ready to have your mate -- and you will have him but -- watch what is yours and what is your parents image for you. Then, have fun.

Note: You are not your mother or your friends: Her/their experience is not yours.
Your guy friend: is a good lesson for you -- not bad but not for you.

You speak of good communication -- but that is not where the issues are. The issue is on power -- you communicate well enough- -just not on the same wavelength. You two have not dealt with issues of your parents expectations in who "you are supposed to marry" You may have dealt with that on a cognitive level but the energy still remains on energetic/spiritual level.

When you see him in San Francisco - have fun but have few expectations.
Acknowledge your friend and have fun but realize this is not the one that is for you -- he has to learn what he wants -- how to love -- and you do as well.

Love is not just heart. Your have to balance - issues in your third chakra - -of what you (your parents) think a guy should be as well as where you give your power away to try to make it better.
You are a fixer and you have to stop -- he doesn't need fixing -- you work on you and you will be fine.

Take care
Soul2Will

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