Dear Karen,
Thank you
for writing to us and welcome to Soul2Soul!
I have
mixed feelings about Steve, and in general I feel that a relationship
right now is probably not the wisest choice for you.
It feels
to me as though there has been a lot of upheaval in your life, and
disappointment which is in a sense still going on. I feel that you
are in a way reluctant to slow down and face the pain of the past
but simply keep moving on. Your strength and tenacity are both admirable,
however, my strongest feeling on this is that for you to have a meaningful
relationship you need most of all to slow down and restructure your
life, as well as your relationship to yourself.
To a certain
degree you feel trapped, and there seems to be a very great desire
and a desperate yearning to meet someone who you truly connect with.
It feels like the past has been unsatisfactory for you in the area
of romance and you are looking now for a sort of 'dream' or ideal
partner that you have not before had.
You long
for very deep things, a connection of both body and spirit, someone
to bring balance to you and who would fit into your home. However,
the message I get is that you are still not ready. It feels as though
you are yearning too much and searching too hard for fulfillment in
circumstances outside of yourself.
It really
feels to me as though there is quite a lot of unresolved 'debris'
from the past, and that your situation now, in your home and around
you is somewhat unstable. This is not a fertile ground for anything
to grow.... you need to clear out your inner and outer space of emotional
and physical clutter before you can bring new energies into it.
I can feel
your longing and your desire, not so much for Steve as for Someone...
For "The One."
Steve indeed
feels like a decent man... and I would say that he is quite intrigued/attracted
by you... but this does not feel like anything more than a passing
connection and a meeting of circumstance. I would say that both of
you are at points in your life where you are looking for someone to
fulfill the hollow spaces rather than looking at each other.
Potentials-wise:
certainly there is potential. I don't believe that you are operating
on the same frequency, and I would say you are temporary companions
rather than soulmates in any respect. I think you could probably grow
close and be good friends, but at this moment I would advise against
attempting to build a romantic relationship with Steve as it simply
feels like both of you, right now, are dragging too much of the emotional
past unhappiness with you which you need to release first before entering
any new intimate relationship.
Was Steve
married? I have a distinct feeling of a shadow of what looks like
a blonde/fair woman, a little bit plump on his side. It feels like
someone from his past and someone on his mind... this could also be
a relative, a sister or a mother, but its someone whose influence
he still strongly feels and I also feel needs to release before he
can move on.
If you
were to embark on a relationship with Steve I believe you would have
a hard time keeping the harmony. It feels very much like a relationship
where there would be a lot of give and take and I really don't think
that ultimately it would fulfill you because you and Steve at this
time cannot give each other what you want. Ultimately any relationship
between you would be harder on you because emotionally you want more
from a relationship and your future partner than Steve does.
To be quite
truthful, I don't feel Steve to be The One for you. It feels like
there is a man you have yet to meet, (the vibe he gives off is of
a stranger) but at the moment he doesn't feel near you at all. I don't
believe it is someone you have met yet or who is a part of your circle.
The overwhelming
message I get at the moment is that you need to focus on your life,
and your children, on building a stable foundation for yourself and
using this time to clear up issues from your past and settle your
emotions.
I understand
your longing for security and a partner to share your life and home
with who would fulfill you in ways you wish for. However, really,
before you can get to a place of being able to be in such a relationship
you first need to establish a loving relationship with yourself.
Therefore
use this time wisely to clear up inner clutter and enjoy your children,
to let your life become still and build a secure and stable place
within it. You are not doomed to lead a loveless life. But instead
of trying so hard, and wishing so hard, simply start by slowing down
and clearing enough space in your life for Love to actually be able
to step in.
And as
always, remember that your first Love Affair should be with yourself.
Love yourself as you would be loved. Do not settle and remember to
hold on neither to the past nor to someone out of hope that they are
the one and the fear that you will be left alone.
Leading
a Loveless Life begins when you have insufficient Love of Self. Leading
a Love filled life begins by reversing that.
But really,
use this time to release the past and clear your space, both emotional
and outer. Be patient. Things happen when we are ready for them, not
when we think they should. :)
I wish
you much joy and peace and many blessings on your journey.
Blessed
Be
Soul2Moon
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