Hi Elizabeth,
Thank
you for taking the time to write, and for the opportunity for me
to read for you. First, I'd like to address the fear of being hurt
that you mentioned. Of course, no one likes to be hurt -- we'd rather
be content. However, it does happen, and the more you love others,
the more open you are to being hurt by them.
So many
hurts are unintentional, but it's hard to distinguish while you're
feeling a deep hurt. We can hurt when things simply don't work out,
when it's time to move on, and when we read something into a situation
that simply isn't there.
Remember,
hurts can be healed and released, and you must allow that to happen.
If you are still influenced in the present by the hurts you experienced
in the past, then you have not released them, and are not completely
open to a new relationship.
Right
now, you need to put the hurts of the past into a different perspective.
Start by looking objectively at each hurt that was significant enough
for you to continue to remember it. Consider why it hurt you, and
then know that it cannot continue to hurt you if you choose not
to let it. Next, think of how you felt, and may still feel, about
those who have hurt you. Think about your love for them, and realize
that being able to feel love so deeply is a blessing. Also, once
you let go of the hurt, you will find that there are many wonderful
memories that you can cherish, that you can remember with a smile.
One thing
to remember -- only YOU can clear away the hurts you feel from past
experiences. No one else can do it for you. If you are hoping that
you'll find a wonderful man who can wipe them right out of your
mind, it simply isn't going to happen. Until you clear them, they
will always be there, below the surface, waiting for a new event
to bring them back to mind.
With
B., you need to let it remain a friendship for now. Take the time
to release the past hurts, until you are able to open yourself up
to loving and being loved once again. Realize that you are assigning
the qualities of past relationships to those who hold potential
for future relationships. To assume that a potential love interest
will act the same way a past person did is not fair to the new person.
All that
said, by continuing your friendship with B., you will find that
you are able to relax with time, and you will see him as an individual.
It will give you further opportunity to see what potential there
may be for a deeper relationship. You very well may have a relationship
with B., if you continue to believe that he is a good match once
you know him better. He does care about you, and his feelings very
well may deepen with time.
B.
seems to be dependable enough that should a loving relationship
develop, he would not treat it lightly. You will be comfortable
with him, and will learn to trust more through this relationship.
I am
not getting an indication as to how long this relationship will
last. It may last months or years -- that is up to you as things
move forward. For now, though, just know that he is someone you
will be close to, and you can enjoy getting to know him as you clear
the old hurts away.
Elizabeth,
thank you once again for allowing me to read for you. May you find
many blessings on your path.
My best
to you,
Peace
