Hello
Vanessa! I like your name a lot, very pretty! ;)
The
first thought I had after reading your letter was the fact that you
didn't mention the man you are seeing until the very end of it. Always,
we ask ourselves, is this really the one for me? He has some nice
qualities, and I've had a rough time of it, maybe I should just cash
in my chips and take what I've got. After all, when you've been single
for 30+ years, you tend to think that the majority of men who are
single are either gay or seriously messed up when it comes to relationships.
I understand; we've all been there.
This
is a very crucial time in our lives, Vanessa. It's a time when we
really need to look beyond the physical illusions of our world and
see inside to our very own souls to figure out how to be living our
best lives. And guess what? Love has no time limit! If you really
know in your heart that you truly deserve to be with your most divine
partner, then you can and will do just that!
What
I know of this gentleman you're seeing so far is that he has been
very wary of you, in that he sees you might want to get more out of
him than he hopes to give. He seems to be a very superficial guy;
solely into looks, power, money, objects of desire. When someone uses
all of his time and energy to fill up the selfish desires of the outer
self such as he does, all that does is make the void in his heart
even larger. He is missing something, and he can't see what is right
before his eyes; he needs love, as we all do. When we surrender to
spirit, and make the decision to fill ourselves with love first and
foremost, we come to realize that everything we need will be provided
for us!
So
Vanessa, first of all, I would advise you to not see R. anymore. To
be honest, you're wasting your time with him and you need to move
on. It was fun while it lasted, but let's get real, being with him
takes away from your search for your true divine partner. Once you've
given him his walking papers, I want you to sit down and make a list
of all of the things you love about yourself! And be honest about
these things. Inner stuff and outer stuff too! So, if you think you
have a really nice way of talking to people, great! Also, if you think
you have an awesome butt, put that on the list too!
Next,
I want you to write down the things about yourself that you would
like to improve. As hard as it is to do this, you must be brutally
honest with yourself, without beating yourself up! For instance, if
you feel that you tend to judge others harshly (we've all fallen victim
to this!), then say so, and say you'd like to work on fixing that.
(one tip: I always say 'erase it' after saying something unkind; it
negates it and I'm done, no guilt, and I've reminded myself to be
kinder!) Just make sure to not get upset when you write these things
down; writing them down makes you aware and shows already that you
want to be a better person.
Ok,
so now you've got a list of wonderful and not so wonderful qualities
about yourself. And you've made the decision to work on things you'd
like to improve upon. Now, it's your turn to take what you've learned
and open yourself completely to loving yourself for everything on
that list. Of course, we don't love our negative habits, but that's
all they are, habits, and they can be broken! See yourself for who
you are, a human being, with flaws. So often, we tend to push ourselves
to be perfect
beings. You don't have to be perfect, just be the best you that you
can be! Odds are, your divine partner isn't perfect either, but loving
the fact that you are flawed will help you to see beyond the flaws
in your future soulmate.
Ultimately,
true love is waiting for you to come to it. It sounds so simple but
it's true: just ask spirit to bring you to your true love and you'll
see! When you honor, cherish, trust, and love yourself, your divine
partner will hear you calling and will come to you!
Now
for my psychic predictions: I can tell you that within 1 - 2 years,
I see you in a wonderful relationship, very balanced and fulfilling.
I see this 'husband' of yours as a writer of love songs, possibly
meaning he's either a song writer, a poet, or maybe a musician. I
see him having dark hair, soft, light eyes and a heart of gold. He
truly loves you and enjoys taking you out, pampering you, tending
to you. He's a true gentleman and shows no signs of walking away once
he finds you! I think you might just be blown away at first to see
how attentive a man can actually be. You might even get the impulse
to run, for this behavior is so foreign to you. But please just remember
that this type of treatment is what you deserve, it is owed to you,
it has been given to you by spirit, so enjoy it and appreciate him
as well. He really likes to work on his music, so try to be very supportive
of that. I also see he enjoys dancing, and taking hikes or bike rides,
so I hope you can enjoy these activities together! Looking great,
Vanessa!
Try
not to get discouraged Vanessa. Your divine soulmate will come when
the universe sees fit to bring you together, and then you will both
be asked to consider the possibilities of trusting each other to know
right away when you meet. You may still have work to do on yourself,
he may have work to do on himself. But that's ok because it only keeps
you even closer together.
Your
divine soulmate is already with you; he is in your heart. When you
look at yourself and see how amazing and fabulous you are, you will
see him too. And you will start to notice a change in you that will
bring others closer. Others will look at you as if you have a beautiful
light around you. Go with it!
Oh,
and by the way, I'm sure you know that time is all relative in the
spirit realm so please don't let that time frame shake you up. Following
the path to your divine soulmate takes time. There is much growth
and experience needed to prepare. You are renewing and becoming one
with the divine light. You'll be amazed at how quickly time will pass
once you embark upon this most amazing, beautiful journey! Enjoy your
time as a single lady now, because before you know it, he'll be here.
Use this time to go out with your girlfriends and see what you truly
appreciate about them. Remember to take moments to yourself; long
walks are great ways to get to know yourself better!
Love
always,
Soul2Paula
