Dear
Betty,
Welcome
to Soul2Soul and thanks for emailing oracle.
It
sounds like you have had to face a very challenging recent past...
as to where your divorce leaves you- the answer is in a place of clarity
and truth. Truth may be unpleasant in this case but it is beneficial.
It takes courage to live in truth and to recognise the deeper truths
about yourself. It takes courage to declare "This is who I am
now" and shape your life accordingly.
I
am glad to hear that T. and yourself are still friends and that you
are maintaining some sense of humour about the situation.
As
to X. ... there is turbulence around him in his recent past, but he
is coming out of that and wanting to move on. The place he is in right
now seems calmer like the peace after a storm. I feel him wanting
to move, if he hasn't already I believe he is planning to leave work
and go on to something else. he may be planning a book or working
on one. I get a sense of him writing. This man feels to me like a
solitary person. In the image I get of him he's a tree, one of those
that you get in the middle of desert who flourish and grow despite
the seeming barrenness around them. I believe he works best alone,
and isn't at all keen to get involved in any kind of intimate relationships.
Having
said this though... there is an unresolved situation in his home.
This is an older woman... possibly a mother but most likely a wife.
I am not sure whether he was/is actually married to this person but
it is someone he has had a very long term relationship with and who
is strong in his emotions. My sense is a dark-haired woman, who is
not in the picture but still exerts an influence in the home. I don't
sense him as a very emotional person, or at least a person who forms
emotional bonds. I'd say he is aware of your feelings and they deeply
unsettle him. I would advise strongly against pursuing a relationship
with this man as I don't feel it would make either of you happy. He
doesn't feel like an unkind man, but he is not a risk taker and isn't
going to get involved or compromise himself. He also doesn't feel
like a person particularly good at communication or confrontation,
but someone that prefers avoidance strategies.
Any
potential romantic relationship between you feels like a clouded,
misted thing... profoundly shaped by dream and illusion. it simply
doesn't feel like it would be a healthy thing for either of you. There
is still an aura of 'father figure' and 'teacher' around it... not
a relationship of equals. I don't see any ending which would make
you happy in the long term, and my feeling is any confusion which
you are experiencing now will be magnified five hundred fold if you
were with him, or that ultimately he wouldn’t bring you anything
except heartbreak and regret.
I
am not sure what has happened between you in the recent past but it
feels like you are feeling frustrated anger. You have been through
a fair amount of emotional upheaval, it is not surprising you yearned
for a partner. It is a longing most of us share which becomes more
acute after a divorce.
Journaling
would probably be a good idea and allowing quite some time for dust
to settle. it feels like you have begun to release X. from your life
to a large extent...which is a commendable thing. I don't think that
he dislikes you, simply that a romantic relationship isn't something
he is prepared to engage in. You can use him as a catalyst to help
you move on. Relationship wise... not picking up anything substantial
in the short term.
It
feels like you are 'looking' but this isn't likely to yield much result
within the next two years. I believe a man you will have the option
of settling with is someone who isn't obvious, it won't be an instant
spark, but a deeper compatibility beneath the surface. Not love at
first sight.. but on third perhaps. At the moment it is all too faraway
for me to get anything other than a vague sense of it... that you
will get a chance to settle for a different kind of love... one that
grows and develops rather than striking you like thunder out of a
clear blue sky.
As
to the connection you felt for X. ... people we are karmically tied
to, or have known in past lives, even soul mates are sometimes simply
people we need to led go in this incarnation. We can have strong bonds
to people without those relationships necessarily being healthy or
in our best interest.
Not
everything is bleak, you seem to be moving into a much more positive
place... and a feel of you "graduating" and a celebration
of some kind, either actually graduating or simply making a change
and being proud of yourself for it. In any case, something you will
be proud of yourself and happy about. In the wider picture you are
moving on and this is not easy but ultimately for the best. You have
tremendous inner strength that has not been tested yet... my feeling
is this is the first time you will really be 'out there', alone and
independent in the wide world, and frightening as the prospect may
seem it will benefit you in the long run. It will help you discover
your fiery side, the 'go getter' as well as someone who is very lively
and full of spark.
Waiting
is frustrating, and growing hurts but they are for the best.
I
wish you the best of luck. Let us know how you get on.
Peace,
Soul2Moon
Order
a private reading from Soul2Moon!
An
amazing array of waterfalls, fountains and personalized engraved stonework.
Back
to top
Back
to Archives
