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This month we will be discussing some more ways in which you can protect yourself from others.

We all strive for a balance, as a reader I wish to keep the channels of communication open so that I can give the best possible reading to a client. Yet, as a healer one needs to protect oneself from the onslaught of negativity that can surround us. PMA or Positive Mental Attitude is very important. Okay, I can hear you all jeering, " Oh so now you're going to tell me how to think." By all means no, I can assure you there are plenty of positive mental attitude guru's out there that you can look up. My personal favorite would be Norman Vincent Peale. He has many small pocket sized books with little bits of wisdom in them. I would just like to point out how easily we can get into a negativity spiral, and once in, it can be difficult to get out. I would like to share a letter from a reader to illustrate this point. In addition, I invite you to send your questions or comments. The wonderful folks here at the magazine have included a link at the end of the article.

This letter leads naturally into this month's column- Advanced Protection and Healing Techniques.

We can all fall into this trap where others can manipulate our feelings. Many times this can be subtle manipulation as you may feel your heartstrings tugging after you have told a child they may not have a piece of candy before dinner. Or they can be much more in the open as in the case of a bossy person or bully who intimidates openly. In either, case the results can be the same. The most powerful form of this comes from either a parent or lover. In both of these cases, we are wanting and looking for love and intimacy, from possibly the only person we can really trust. When we are bombarded with negative feelings from these people it can be particularly devastating.

Let's imagine you are looking at two people arguing, but imagine you can see their energy fields. Some people can do this with a little practice, and there are many books on the subject. But for now let's just pretend we see them. On the left is the little girl in the pink dress, shy and demure she is only looking for love. On the right we have a parent figure. A parent who is angry about something the child had no control over, we'll say she got sick on the carpeting for arguments sake.

On the left we see little strings reaching out with love towards the parent, because even though the parent is being harsh, the child still loves the parent. From the parent we see coming out strings that are reddish and angry in color. These angry strings can sap a child's energy leaving her feeling helpless and alone. Yet the parent still feels strong because the child is still sending her love to the parent. So the child is getting a double energy hit, she is sending and being sapped at the same time. I use this example for illustration purposes only and the tables could easily be reversed with the child being the stronger and the parent being the weaker, as might be the case of someone caring for an elderly person. Actually any two persons can fit into this scenario. It could be a boss or person in authority, a lover, or even just a domineering friend.

I would now like to show you the opposite end of the scale.

On your left is a young woman, and on the right a young man. These two people are very much in love. Their auras burn clean and white hot. You will see that there are many strings that hold these two together but they are reciprocal in nature, nice bright purple, blue and green strings that go back and forth between the two of them. This actual phenomenon has been well documented with a process known as Krilian photography (the electronic photo study of auras). You will notice little pulses going back and forth coinciding with little looks or gestures as the two gaze at each other. They are not feeding on each other, they are pleasing each other.

Many times there are certain people we are around that can be very draining, we feel tired in their presence and the feelings can linger for sometime afterwards. These people have not learned how to tap into their own energy sources and need to draw from others. One term thrown around a lot is psychic vampire, although this term is not far from the truth, I do not care for the connotation.

Now let's see how we can avoid these situations. Let's take a deep breath and go back to our waterfalls. Breath in 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9, and breath out 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1. As before let's imagine a deep chasm filled with lush vegetation. There is a winding path down to the bottom. As we descend the sounds of the world seem to disappear, replaced by the rushing sounds of the water as it falls over the cliffs, now high above us, and lands into the clear pool below. There is a rock nearby and we sit on it for a moment and allow the light to again penetrate our beings. This time it flows through us without obstruction. Take a few moments to bask in the light and allow it to permeate our being fully.

Nearby, hanging on a tree, you will see a cloak and casually placed under it is a sword. For many of you there may be a guide there to help you don your new attire, others may have angels to help them, and still others will have to place the cloak on themselves as I did. The cloak is heavy and has a high collar similar to a medieval knight's attire, and the sword is heavy but you find you can lift it with ease. Place the cloak about your shoulders and let the collar rise up enough to protect your ears but still allowing sounds to penetrate.

Stand with your cloak about your shoulders, open to the front and hold your sword up in front of your face with both of your hands at about the level of your heart. Allow the light to enter through your head and go out through your toes, but this time let light go through your arms and into your sword as well, energize it with the skills you began to use last month. The sword will glow with a bright color, it may be green, or pink, or blue or any other shade if it is not bright send it more light until it shines brightly and proudly. Whatever color it glows is your chosen color. For many of you this may be the first time you have been able to see your own energies at work. You should be well proud of this accomplishment.

Now take a look about your being and see if anyone has attached cords to you that may be sapping your energies. It is fine and a wonderful gift to give freely of your own energies, provided you replenish them at the same rate you give them. It is not so wonderful to have someone sapping your energies without your express permission. Take your sword and gently cover every square of your being. You will find that your sword will easily cut through these strings, although some may be a bit tougher and require a bit of hacking if they are firmly implanted. One rule we must remember is that a defensive position is always stronger than an attacking position. In other words in defense you always have the upper hand. Where we get into trouble is when we don't realize there is a problem. Sort of like driving a modern automobile without any gauges or warning lights. We can drive and drive until suddenly we are out of gas or oil or water but we had no prior knowledge.

We keep the front of the frock or coat open so that we can stay in tune with our feelings and senses and many times we remove it altogether. It has been my experience working with students that they find the cloak quite comfortable and may be some time before they take it off. Now walking around with a sword in front of our faces all the time is just not practical and spending all of that energy concentrating on it would defeat its purpose. The sword is for protection only and can be stored in a scabbard about the waist area. I find that it is rarely actually needed, and in most cases just knowing it is there gives us enough confidence to not allow others to sap our strength without permission. We simply don't allow it. If a thread does happen to get through catching us unawares we simply pull out the trusty sword, charge it with energy and cut away the offending appendage.

One could argue as in the case of a child or lover that "They need my energy." While this is true it should not be continuous, it should be given with permission. I had just been released from the hospital after having major surgery due to a perforated ulcer when I first found three strings attached to my solar plexus region (the area of the belly) one large and two small. They coincided with the number of ulcers I had one large and two small. As I cut them away I was able to ascertain who they were, the large one was my ex-wife and the smaller two were my two young boys. It was not hard to cut the large one but I found it morally difficult to cut the other two. My children needed me and being that they were far away maybe this was the only way I could stay attached to them. I struggled with this dilemma for days. I worried about the consequences, would they survive, would they still run to me and love me would they feel differently about me. Finally after consulting with some friends I realized that although they were not the cause of me being in the hospital, it certainly could be argued that the three strings were a contributing factor. I thought long and hard on the final decision to cut the final two strings. In the end I decided that if I was to live a long life and be there for them throughout their growing-up process that I would have to take care of myself. Since I had been near death in the hospital I had to do everything in my power to save my own skin so that I could be strong for them when they needed me. I cut the strings but I must say there were tears streaming down my face as I did. As well I may have lost a bit of touch with them. That was almost seven years ago and yet it seems like yesterday. As I write this my two sons are going into their teenage years, the both profess to love me and tell me so often. My ulcers have healed and I am a stronger person to help them through those " difficult years.

And "What does all this have to do with healing" one might ask? It has to do with healing oneself. It has to do with allowing ones spirit to grow to be a stronger person for others in need and to continue the tradition of giving freely of oneself reserving strength for the next time it is needed. If a great philanthropist gave away all of his money in one day what would he have left to give to the next great cause to come along?I will leave you with this thought. The universe gives freely of its energy and allows us to tap into it and give it to others. Stealing something that is given freely is kind of silly when you look at it that way. But I caution you, even if you know that a person is doing it, most are completely unaware, don't run up to them and tell them. Simply make sure you have your cloak in place and your sword at the ready, you will feel confident that they will not be able to penetrate your shield, yet you can freely send them love or energy as you please.

A nice exercise to do is to let yourself grow tall, as you do you will notice that your cloak covers a larger area, like a shadow of protection. Grow tall enough to cover the room you are in at first, then keep growing until the edges of your cloak are big enough to protect your home, apartment or trailer, then grow just a little bit more to protect your land. It is not wise to go to much larger than your own property because your strength can become diluted, however with practice you can protect others, but not for extended periods of time. You can however lend a helping hand during times of need.

Enjoy your newfound freedom. Enjoy the inner strength that comes with knowing you are protected.

Enjoy your life more knowing you are in control of your self and your destiny, no longer will others be able to manipulate you without your knowing it, or make you feel guilty by tugging needlessly at your heartstrings. Above all congratulate yourself for standing tall and knowing you have the confidence to not only help yourself but also the inner-strength to help others.

Until Next month Arevederci